It’s soo strange that people dont realize that any city’s population is 35-40 lacs & to know 1 person & particularly that person is highly impossible.

Me: No, i dont know this person and somehow this relative felt offended as if i had done some crime in NOT knowing that person, which according to him is very “popular“.

I realized that this behavior is very common among the older generations. I think the reason for this behavior is coz earlier most of the people use to live in the villages or even the cities were not very crowded & everybody knows everybody. I can say this coz when i was growing up, everyone from my city use to know us. Oh yes, our complaints use to reach much before we reach home.

At present times things have changed, today not everyone knows us, only the previous generation. But this attitude of knowing all still remains/prevails.

I think people don’t realize that time flies very fast.

There comes Monday morning, I got another email from the client that his Investor is coming to Bangalore for a short trip so instead of coming over to me, he is going there. In his email he wrote that even he was not aware of his investor coming to Bangalore, and he can come to my office only on Wednesday.

So you can see, how investor’s decision of going to Bangalore had effected so many people i.e. My Client, Me, Employees, Their families, People who are related to them. People who had planned things with them have to cancel their plans and since, they have to cancel their plans people who are attached with them will also get effected.

I strongly believe that every single act of your’s can effect so many people that you yourself are not aware of that and coz of this ignorance we do things that effect other people’s life so much so that at times it changes their course of living. At times, by the time we realizes that impact, it’s already late.

Let me know your thoughts on this or perhaps, the Best is – Share your exp.

For me, this was like Wow! and shocking as well coz earlier he always blame “Others” for the things that happened in his life. For the first time, he said this – he is responsible for whatever had happened in his life.

Today morning when i was contemplating that, came across that in every person’s life there are 3 stages.

1) When you blame others: This is when you are young and whenever things don’t go your way, instead of taking the responsibility of your acts, you start blaming others.
2) When you start taking responsibility: This is when you have become little mature and start realizing the fact that even if things don’t go your way, it’s your responsibility and no one else has to blame for that.
3) When you realize that things are not in your hand and you neither can blame others nor yourself. Normally by the time people realize this they have become old. They realize this when young people blame them for their sufferings or disappointments and they try to make young people understand but like they say – life goes in full circle.

I came to Pune to make my own living, started with a bang then got busted like a Bubble. This decade has been a roller coaster ride with many Ups and Downs. Many Realizations, Many learnings, Many achievements, many disappointments, happiness, sadness…etc.

Though this decade was full of things but to me, the MOST valuable things are:

1) Moments of Happiness that i gave to few persons (though i feel now that i could have given to more, perhaps i was not wise enough at that point of time) esp. to those whom I don’t know or will never see/ meet. Reason why i consider this as Most valuable coz i didnt expect anything in return or was not hoping anything at all.

2) Realization that am part of Existence and am NO different from him. Though am still struggling with my Inner, which at times do not remember this. Hopefully i will be able to practice by making my inner “Believe” in this.

In the end, wish everyone a very Happy New Year and hope that you start this new decade with Happiness and will spread Love and Joy.

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It is a simple spiritual truth that you can easily try out today. All you need is yourself and your intent…you don’t need anything else and it won’t cost you a penny.

Today set your intent to give love to everyone you meet. That may be with a smile, kind words, a helping hand, giving a compliment, a hug or just being there to listen … but giving unconditionally with no expectation of anything in return.

The main barrier or block that we have in giving is the fearful voice inside that says things like “ if I give to others, there won’t be enough for me” or “ If I give to others I will be taken advantage of and hurt again.” Or “ I am not going to give to them because they never do anything nice for me.” And it is because of limiting fears, beliefs and perceptions like these that we carry and hold on to, that we are restricted not only in our ability to give but also to receive love.

Giving and receiving are the sides of same coin. And all the limiting fears and beliefs that hold us back are just defence mechanisms that we have learnt from early age to protect ourselves from being hurt. Every time you got hurt, you put up another barrier to stop the same thing from happening again and you may have even vowed not to love again to save yourself from being hurt but whilst those barriers may have protected you from being hurt, but at the same time they also closed your heart and blocked your ability, then and now, to give and receive love.

What’s ironic is that the defence mechanism that you put up to protect yourself from getting hurt are actually the ones that stop you from giving. You wanted to be loved but didn’t want to get hurt so you put up blocks and barriers from getting hurt but at the same time it also stopped you from receiving what you were wanting in the first place, i.e. Love. As you learn to put down your defences, you can open your heart for giving and receiving love from a place of love and not fear.

Today set your intent to give love to everyone you meet. And remember in giving try not to focus on the other’s person’s reactions or what’s in it for YOU instead give unconditionally.

And as you give love today, you will see how it returns back to you in the most amazing ways through the experiences that you draw back and attract into your life….but remember don’t give out just to get back, give out from your heart unconditionally.

Though saying is always easy than actual doing as we are bound by our family (Brothers / Sisters / Parents etc), social (Friends ..etc) and Work related (Employer / Employees / Collegues ..etc) people.

From my yest. experience i realized that People are angry when their expectations are not met. Your anger leads to frustration, you start feeling helpless and thus start suffering.

Expectations are nothing more than depending on someone else. So if we dont depend on others than most of our sufferings will end.

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